Attachment wounds develop early, in the first relationships where you learned what love looked and felt like. Anxious attachment, avoidant, disorganized — the names matter less than the experience: the pattern of connecting that was formed before you had language for it, that you've been enacting in every relationship since.

Anonymous thoughts about attachment wounds posted here are from people recognizing the pattern in real time — what the wound is, where it came from, and the very specific difficulty of wanting to connect differently than you were taught.