Anonymous thoughts about belonging.
The feeling that was supposed to go away when you grew up.
The performance of fitting in while feeling entirely adjacent.
Never quite — in any group, any place, any version of this.
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The feeling of not belonging is supposed to go away when you're an adult. You find your people, your place, your community. Except for many people, it doesn't. The feeling of being slightly outside, slightly adjacent, slightly not-quite — it persists across different contexts, different groups, different cities.
The worst version is performing belonging. Going through the motions of connection while feeling entirely separate inside it. No one knows. You've gotten very good at the surface.
Anonymous thoughts about belonging posted here are from people who dropped the performance, just once, and said the true thing. This is what it sounds like.