Sibling relationships carry the longest history of any in most people's lives. They accumulate decades of small injustices, comparisons, loyalties, and complicated love. The feelings don't simplify as you get older — they just get more carefully managed.

The things you feel about your siblings — jealousy, resentment, grief at the distance that developed, love that doesn't know how to express itself, anger at the roles assigned in childhood that never quite changed — are rarely said plainly.

Anonymous thoughts about siblings posted here are the things that couldn't make it into the actual relationship. The honest account, without the careful management.