Anonymous thoughts about chronic apologizing.
Apologizing before the offense, after, and for things that weren't yours.
The reflex of contrition detached from actual wrongdoing.
What you learned about your right to exist.
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Chronic apologizing is the reflex of contrition that has detached from actual wrongdoing. You apologize for taking up space. For having needs. For speaking. For existing in a way that inconveniences anyone. It developed as a survival strategy in environments where your presence was unwelcome or your needs were a problem. It continues in rooms that don't require it.
Anonymous thoughts about chronic apologizing posted here are from people who have recognized the reflex — the honest account of what it says about how you learned to be in the world.