WOUNDConditional Love signals
Anonymous thoughts about conditional love.
Being loved for performance, not for existing.
The love available when the conditions were met and withdrawn when they weren't.
What you learned about yourself when you failed to meet them.
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Conditional love teaches you that you are valuable for what you do, not for what you are. The conditions may be explicit or unspoken, but they're felt. The child who is loved when they succeed, tolerated when they fail. The self that learns early that love must be earned and can be withdrawn.
Anonymous thoughts about conditional love posted here are from people unlearning the version of love they were given first — the honest account of what it taught them and how it follows them.